Social workers work at their own pace; and even when you think you are getting somewhere, it's never as fast as you would like.
That 7 years of infertility teaching you patience isn't enough... you can never be patient enough. I thought I'd learnt this, but apparently not.
Switching social workers just after panel means that you second guess yourself. Is it alright to call, to email. With our old social worker I would have done it with no concerns, no second guessing - but now... 'am I being too pushy'
That things that you hear that sound awful when you first hear them; can seem liveable with, with you've lived with them for a while.
That life carries on around you, no matter what.
That my DH was as happy as I was to hear from our social worker today, to arrange an appointment to meet boy-o's social worker next week.
That I love that man so much for all the comfort he's given me. That he lets me talk, and talk, and talk even when he doesn't want to. Because in this instant, he's the only one I could talk about boy-o to.
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3 comments:
Patience is the hardest thing while going through this process. My prayers are going your way. Like you, I found sides of my husband that made me love him even more as we worked through the adoption process. Hang in there!
"Waiting to adopt a child can be a frustrating time for prospective parents. Control of their lives has been turned over to a stranger-an entire agency! It is difficult for them to wait for contact from an agency and never hear a word. It is difficult for them to know that thousands of children need homes, while their spare bedroom with the dinosaur wallpaper remains empty. It is difficult for them to have their lives, their finances, and homes scrutinized by professionals whose job it is to decide if they are suitable to parent. In the Bermuda Triangle of law, social worker, and paperwork, they are often lost."
This is from the book Adopting the Hurt Child. I read this bit the other day and thought of you, and thought of my family. I continue to admire your reserve and calm. If they want to see pushy, they should meet me!
I have been reading your blog today, just came across it. I would like to borrow, for my blog, a bit of one of your postings:
"That 7 years of infertility teaching you patience isn't enough... you can never be patient enough. I thought I'd learnt this, but apparently not."
Let me know if this okay. Thanks.
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