Continuing with the re-running of old posts for National adoption week 2012, these were written in Oct 2009.
Tomorrow is our big day... approval panel.
We have to wait until 2.45 to met our social worker, who should have some questions for us.
We go into panel at 3.00.
I keep trying to remind myself that if there was any doubt our social worker wouldn't have let us get to panel.
But my mind freezes and I worry...
It'll soon be here, won't it?
We got a yes... how exciting - although actually it feels like a bit of anti - climax!
We got there at the time we had been told, expecting to be told that they were running late... which they weren't.
went into a meeting room and spoke with our SWs (both old and new) and
discussed the questions that we the panel had put together for us. There
was nothing unexpected it was as SW told us it would be.
15 mins, the vice-chair (chair of panel was absent) of panel came in
and introduced herself to us, and asked us to go into the room where
panel was sitting. The first thing that they did was introduced
themselves; there was; Vice Chair, Adoption Agency Representative, two
Minute Takers, an Adoptive Parent, Local City Councillor, Social Worker,
Adoptee, Medical Advisor and one more person whose job I can't
remember. Plus us and our two social workers.
chair talked for a bit about what they perceived our strengths to be,
and said that the report was a really good report. Then they got onto
the scary bit... asking questions - 7 in total... the first two are
1. Can you tell us about your experience of working with the Agency so far on your adoption assessment?
2. Can you tell us about the child or children that you can imagine in your family?
Could N update panel about how she is doing with regards to her weight?
(this was asked by medical advisor, who also explained that my medical
condition (PCOS) made this harder than it was far some others)
4. What impact do N and M feel placement of a child will impact upon their voluntary work?
5. Could M help panel understand his journey to adoption and what helped him to feel this would be OK?
6. Could M tell panel more about his particular interest in a boy?
7. What is the thinking about the age range of child M and N are wishing to consider?
were praised afterwards for being totally honest and our SWs were
really pleased with how we had answered the questions. Old SW had a
couple of comments to add after we'd given our answers, but they were
We went out and sat in the post-panel
waiting room. We'd just about got ourselves sat down and chatting when
the Vice-chair came in and said 'congratulations'. We talked a bit about
how well they thought we'd considered the differing aspects of adoption
and that the decision was unanimous. She left us to get ready for the
next panel, and we spent a little time chatting to our SWs about next.
next... next is waiting. New SW is coming next week to chat to us, and
bringing us some mocked up profiles so that she can see what sort of
child we are drawn to. We know that there will be no placement until
after x-mas, but we might (if we are lucky) hear about a child sometime
in the next couple of months.
How little we knew; we heard the following week that we had been put forward for a boy, that our details had been passed to a boy's social worker. Not just any boy, our boy.
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